• Hair?
  It gets in your face and you can't brush it aside? Maybe a newbie would worry about that, want to put it up in a pony-tail or something? No, don't do that. Getting ready for bondage is the same as getting ready for sex (if you have the time - if it's not spontanious.) Be clean, wear the scents, a little make-up whatever your tastes run to. We're all different.

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• The gag. Bondage gear! (Formerly a bandana)
  Gags are dangerous! Never wear one when tied up and alone! They taste bad too, and can make you drool. Actually gags don't prevent you from making a lot of noise with your mouth - they just make it so no one can understand you. You can't scream, but you can come close. Guys like them because you look even more helpless (they like that.) i like them sometimes because they allow me to say things that if understood might ruin a scene. i can talk dirty, demand to be let loose, or anything that i want - and still have a good time!

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• Handcuffs on the elbows.
  Not for newbies, not for everyone. A lot of people can't touch thier elbows behind thier back. i can and my elbows can be tied together for... i think my best-to-date is four hours, i think that's right. The reason i wore them was to make it more "fair" for the newbies. i'm used to what it feels like to be tied up so i thought a little extra would balance things out...

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• Handcuffs on wrists.
  i like handcuffs, but a newbie could use silk scarves, leather, rubber, or the ever-poular rope. This is a two way street here; if you want electrical tape then express your point of view. If they hate electrical tape (it has a black goo that gets everywhere) then negotiate it out. i hate most tapes and fishing line or wire is out. i don't need to say this, but if i don't someone could ask...

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• Chain between wrists and spreader bar.
  Sometimes i think i'm too flexable for my own good! With my hands handcuffed behind me - even with the elbows tied - i can touch my gag - or smoke a cigarette! For me a chain like this is good, i supose. Maybe i was born under a lucky star or something, do you think? i rate being tied up in three catagories; 1) tied up, 2) hands to feet, 3) tied to something...

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• Spreader Bar.
  Don't even ask me why i wanted to have Rob put THE spreader bar on my feet. j and i made it. In a former life it was a broom handle. We added some eyelets to each end and took a cheap pair of handcuffs and spread open a link for each end. We hammered the link shut and invented THE most uncomfortable spreader bar on the planet! Spreader bars are great durring oral sex though - keeps me from sqeezing anyone's head off with my knees...

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